Hey, You.

You may be struggling right now, financially, psychologically, or physically.

You may have just lost someone and haven’t really gotten over it, knowing deep down that there’s a part of you that never will.

You may feel utterly alone, like no matter how many friendly and warm faces you see, they just don’t get it.

You may be the subject of someone’s envy or you may be letting your own envy consume you.

You may have been cheated on, by someone you love(d), by someone you hate, or maybe even by life. Continue reading

Loving Your “Enemy”- Not Just an Expression

Alright, this is one of the biggest challenges I’m facing right now, especially in terms of growth as an individual. I believe in being both retrospective and introspective, constantly reflecting on who we are so that we can work towards being a better version of yourself. To be clear, I don’t want to be improve myself to stroke my ego. No, I want to improve so that I can be the best person I can be for my family, friends, and society. I want to say and do everything patiently, honestly, and kindly. However, sometimes those values clash with each other and I sometimes find myself dangerously close to becoming a contradiction.

I remember skimming a little book at the bookstore about hugging a porcupine. Your “enemy”, or someone who is opposed to you and may be working against you, is like a porcupine who has his/her guard up because he/she feels threatened. Continue reading

Young Love (3/3): Personal Case Against Diamonds

Diamonds did not become reputable until the late 1900’s when DeBeers, while attempting to establish its now current monopoly, decided to give it its rare image by presenting it as a symbol of ultimate love that will last forever. With the right marketing tactics and its many successes, women all over the world believe that receiving a diamond ring will be the conclusion of a quality courtship.

When a man considers engagement, he mainly spends a lot of time planning how he’s going to propose, but doesn’t Continue reading

Travel- It’s Possible Now.

One of the things I learned in life, apart from the cliché of “if you really want to make something happen, you can” is that we always make excuses for why we can’t. Whether it’s fear, uncertainty, or what we rule out to be logic, we always make excuses for why we should wait to make our dreams come true. If I can just focus on A and B, I will eventually get to enjoy C. Yes, this is good thinking and, a lot of times, that’s true. But speaking from experience, I think that we sometimes overestimate the attainability of certain goals. For instance: Travel.

So, many people tell themselves that if they work hard enough now, they can just travel when they’re older, when they’ve establish a “solid” career, a “solid” life. They put their dreams of travel on the shelf, admire it often, and dust it off occasionally. However, if you look at a lot of those people, not all, but a lot, they’ve either dismissed that dream or life got in their way. Whatever the reason, it ends up not happening the way they’ve planned and that’s probably because all they did was plan. Continue reading

Young Love (2/3): Why Doubt is Important

Doubt. We always wrestle with that conniving demon. It can cause us to give into fear, attempting to cut us short from achieving our full potential. It can make us to rethink our lives and to question ourselves, but it can also force us to refine ourselves thereafter. So, doubt can be good; it can lead us to consider what is truly important and what is worth fighting for. It is necessary and though we battle it constantly, if we are able to be victorious we will always come out stronger. Continue reading